Animus and Anima (inner Men and Woman)

Posted by on Nov 1, 2016 in Events | Comments Off on Animus and Anima (inner Men and Woman)

Anima Derived from Latin meaning “a current of air, wind, breath, the vital principle, life, soul”, the Anima refers to the unconscious feminine dimension of a male which can often be forgotten or repressed in daily life.  However, in order to psychologically progress and reach greater internal balance and harmony, it is necessary for a man to recognize, embrace and connect to this latent element of his character. The man who has connected with his feminine Anima displays “tenderness, patience, consideration and compassion.”  However, repression of the female element within the man results in a negative Anima that triggers personality traits such as “vanity, moodiness, bitchiness and sensitivity to hurt feelings.”   Animus The Animus, which is a Latin word that means “the rational soul; life; the mental powers, intelligence“, is the unconscious male dimension in the female psyche.  Due to societal, parental and cultural conditioning, the Animus, or male element within the woman, can be often inhibited, restrained and suppressed.  On the other hand, some societies and cultures (such as the Western way of life), ruthlessly impose masculinity ideals as ways to excel, succeed and get anywhere in life for women. These external elements can contribute towards a negative Animus, which reveals itself in a woman’s personality through argumentative tendencies, ruthlessness, destructiveness, and insensitivity.  However, integrating a positive Animus into the female psyche can result in strength, assertiveness, levelheadedness and rationality. Connecting to your inner Anima or Animus does not require you to become homosexual or lesbian, as commonly thought.  And if you identify with either of these sexual orientations, it doesn’t require you to become heterosexual either.  Why?  Because these dormant elements within us have nothing to do with sexuality, and everything to do with creating a balance on the scales of passive (female) and aggressive (male) energies within us. Connecting to the Anima for males is about understanding feminine energy which manifests itself as passivity, sensitivity, and emotionality.  Suggestions include the following: Practice the art of listening with concern and compassion. Rediscovering your passionate side through romantic gestures. Taking care of, or nurturing something. Practicing thoughtfulness and consideration of the needs of others. Expressing the inner Anima creatively, e.g. music, art, sculpture, poetry, dance. Practicing mindfulness, meditation and other ways to get in touch with, and understand, inner emotions. Expanding your hobbies or interests to incorporate feminine energies in your life. Practicing Self-Study in order to develop greater consideration of your internal needs for love and fulfillment.   For females, connecting to the inner Animus is also about understanding masculine energy which manifests itself as everything that is active, dominant, and logical.  Suggestions include: Practicing assertiveness. Adopting a role or position that puts you in authority/dominance. Learning to take charge of something in your life. Discovering and developing your leadership abilities. Reading non-fiction instead of purely fiction. Becoming more self-sufficient and self-reliant. Learning masculine skills, (e.g. fixing car problems, handy-man abilities like using drills, fixing broken appliances, etc.) Gaining more emotional balance by practicing mindfulness, meditation, and Self-Exploration, etc. Learning to become more rational by studying the approach to problems, decisions and situations by rational people.   In essence, the basic question you need to ask yourself is: “what is the current balance of male and female energies in my life, and what needs further development?”   Females for instance, may possess more Animus (male) energy than female energy, and thus will need to get back in touch with the Anima (female) energy latent in the unconscious mind.  Vice versa for males.  Essentially, creating a balanced self is always contextual, and changes from person to...

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Tantric massage and menstruation

Posted by on Sep 20, 2015 in Events | Comments Off on Tantric massage and menstruation

For the positive effects of tantric therapy to manifest we recommend our female clients to take three tantric massage sessions with intervals of about a week. Once a month, on an average, women have a menstrual cycle of varying length and often a massage session coincides with the cycle.   Menstruation For most women this creates an unpleasant situation where they would like to come to the session but are afraid because they have feelings of shame and embarrassment related with their menstruation. They are ashamed of their menstruation and blood plus women are also emotionally more unstable during this time and their self-esteem is lower. Actually female sexuality is very high during these days and the women who have overcome their feelings of shame, embarrassment and guilt in relation with menstruation, enjoy sex greatly and have powerful sexual experiences with their partners.   Menstruation and tantric massage Having tantric massage during menstruation will help women to overcome those feelings of shame and embarrassment related with it and to also accept this side of herself. Understanding that this is a natural and healthy side of being a woman. As their sexuality is higher than usual during menstruation, they can open up faster and enjoy very powerful experiences also during the massage session. When women experience powerful internal orgasms, sexual energy will move inward and up in the body (a process called sublimation). As a result menstruation will become shorter and loss of blood will decrease. Sometimes it happens that menstruation ceases altogether, if the woman also eats clean food and practices yoga and meditation. The less blood a woman loses during menstruation, the less life energy she will lose in the process, and the more vital she is. If a woman feels more or less normal during menstruation, with no strong pains in the lower abdomen or back, we recommend not to postpone a session due to menstruation. Face your fears, feelings of shame and guilt and understand that they actually have no reason. Tantric therapist is not afraid of menstrual blood and his/her understanding and healthy attitude will also help the woman to see it as a normal and natural part of being a...

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Tantra Massage and Polarity

Posted by on Apr 6, 2015 in Events | Comments Off on Tantra Massage and Polarity

  The whole universe and all forms of life within it are working as a mutual interaction of positive (+) and negative (-) energies. Starting from the energetic (+)/(-) connections at the atomic level, forming the tangible and realistically comprehensible matter, up to the rather elusive solar system and galaxies. The energies of Yang (+), or masculine, and Yin (-), or feminine, are the opposites operating throughout the universe, complementing each other and together they form a whole. Masculine energy, Yang (+), strives towards the destruction of the old and towards liberation, female energy, Yin (-) on the other hand, strives more towards preservation and holding. Yang (+) acts as a protector against external threats and thus has to be strong, Yin (-) preserves important basic truths and principles and prepares us for using these. Keeping these energies in balance helps us to achieve harmony and happiness in our lives, unbalance on the other hand will often bring chaos, destruction and suffering. One of the main principles of Tantra is understanding this energetic polarity and using it consciously. Man and woman are seen as the embodiment of these polar energies. Shiva – the aspect of masculine (+) energy in the universe, pure consciousness, and Shakti – the aspect of feminine (-) energy of the universe. Each man and woman carry both energetic aspects simultaneously; masculine (+) energy, active, outward, giving, and female (-) energy, passive, inward, receiving. In our physical body these polar energies are distributed in such a way that our left side reflects the female energy and our right side reflects the masculine energy. Women are generally more charged with feminine (-) Yin energy and men more with masculine (+) Yang energy. The stronger (+) Yang energy the man has, the stronger is the energetic attraction of women towards him. The same holds true for women – the stronger the (-) Yin energy of a woman, the stronger subconscious attraction men feel towards her. We have repeatedly received feedback from our customers that after being able to sexually open more thanks to tantra massage as their gender-specific (+) or (-) energy has activated more, they have enjoyed considerably more attention. They are being noticed, they stick out, they shine, they are sexual and strongly polarized. Energetic polarity also works very strongly in a tantra massage session and in regard to polarities it is considerably more effective if the masseur is of the opposite sex. Many women are afraid to get a tantra massage from a man because it is such an intimate, sexual and personal experience. Women have been suffering, emotionally and often physically hurt because of men and as a result they tend to fear men. In such case it is better to start tantric therapy with a female therapist. After overcoming the initial fears and hesitation, it would be beneficial to receive some sessions from a male therapist in order to balance feminine energy and to try to start trusting men again. Several of our female clients have started their tantric therapy with a female therapist and continued with a male one and later commented that the difference is great. They both offer different experiences and complement each other. Polarity-related energetic effect is considerably greater between opposite sexes. Often both women and men experience energy movement and energetic orgasms already when doing a general relaxing massage, increasing the body’s sensitivity with gentle touch and caress and opening marma points while activating energetic sensitivity. In case a woman has never or almost never experienced a caring gentle attitude and touch from a man, it is advisable...

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Full Body Orgasm and 7 different Female orgasms

Posted by on Feb 9, 2015 in Events | Comments Off on Full Body Orgasm and 7 different Female orgasms

Talking about male and female sexuality “full body orgasm” is not so often mentioned. For many people this is like talking about walking on the moon, they have no idea what it is and if it even exists.     Full Body Orgasm When a man or a woman gets an orgasm, then usually they have this intense feeling of release in the genital area. For men it comes with the ejaculation and for women often with the clitoris orgasm, sometimes with the lower vaginal orgasm. This orgasm is rather short, often very relaxing but not deeply satisfying. The satisfactory feeling in this orgasm is more superficial. To understand this better I have to explain, what goes on in the body during lovemaking. Our body has 7 energy centers, called chakras. During lovemaking the energy grows in the lower energy centers and at one point it gets so big, that it needs to move. There are two options here: either it will be released from the body and it is wasted or it can be moved up in the body and it stays inside. When the energy stays inside, a person usually feels shivers, shaking, buzzing and fluctuations. Sometimes hands, legs and mouth can cramp up (this is actually good). This usually blows over after 10-15 minutes. When Your body is not used to such strong energy, then this can happen. But this orgasm is not a 3 second local feeling in the area of Your genitals, it can spread all over the body and in this case the orgasming comes from all over, also from Your brain. It can last from several minutes up to hours. This happens both for men and women. Trust me, we have done the research, working with hundreds of men and women. Full body orgasm can be also activated without touching a person’s body or without intercourse. You can just move energy with Your hands. This is an exhilarating experience, but requires a person to be energetically receptive. Often women open up to this more easily, it can take a bit more time with men, but not always. Some men open up very easily, once they get out of their head. During lovemaking people usually experience one orgasm.  After the orgasm they need a break and depending on a person sexual capability it can be 10 minutes or it can be 10 days. When experiencing internal orgasms or full body orgasms there is no energy loss and You can continue lovemaking for hours. After sex You will feel energized and powerful, not empty and depleted. Many men experience feelings of depression after ejaculation. They feel empty and tired and just want to roll over or empty the fridge, watch football and worse, have a cigarette. Full body orgasm is liberating, relaxing and much deeper, it is a whole different world. Once you experience it, You will understand it. During a Tantric Therapy session there is often a lot of release of stress and tension that is stored in the body. Women often cry, laugh, scream etc. It shows that suppressed and stuck emotions are being freed from physical and emotional body. Men don’t cry, but they get often the same release of stress, they feel light and easy after.   How to achieve a full body orgasm ? Men have to start separating orgasm and ejaculation. These two are not one and the same thing. These two functions come from two different parts of the brain. Separating these two will not come over night. Some men master this faster and for some it takes...

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Women and Sexuality

Posted by on Feb 8, 2015 in Events | Comments Off on Women and Sexuality

Women and Sexuality Each day I see in my work women who cannot orgasm at all, can’t have internal orgasms or their sexuality is completely asleep. Because of that their relationships with their partner’s suffer, also their health and their overall wellbeing. I can see more clearly how important it is to start paying attention to this part of their being, instead of ignoring it.  Many men are desperate in relationships. For men intimacy and closeness are extremely important, but in almost all relationships it starts to fade away. The number of single mothers with small children is growing constantly, because the relationships can’t take the pressure. When children are born, women direct all their attention to the child and the men are not important anymore. Men compensate this situation by diving deep into work, sports or spending time with their friends. In worst cases they can start drinking or even using drugs. Whichever way of escaping the reality is most suitable for them. I can’t say that women are to blame here. There is no awareness at all in this. Children are the biggest challenge to a relationship. There is no guidance in how to be a mother a woman and a wife, how to have children and how to have a happy marriage, so that no one would feel left out.  It is important here to remember that sex is not an annoying habit of our body, like going to the toilet. It is an important part of us. I read just recently Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Mastery of Love”. There is a chapter in that book called “Sex”. The author clearly states that we are sexual beings and that our body is made for sex. So why is that we consider it to be so unimportant and suppress it. It is such a big part of our being. If this part of us is not working, then probably one or even more of the following things in our life is not working either; our health, relationships, happiness, finances. And believe it or not, they all are connected to our sexuality. How beautiful, loving and radiant is a woman who has discovered her full orgasmic potential, a woman that loves having sex, who shares emotional and physical connection with her partner. You can recognize that woman a mile away.  Sex is not meant for emotional and physical discharge. It is meant for creation, it is meant for bringing a man and woman together and creating a bond so strong between them, that no one can break. It is meant for balancing each other and bringing more harmony to their being. If a man and woman are lacking sex in their relationship, they are lacking the intimate connection between them. That is why relationships do not last.  Approximately 30% of women have never experienced any kind of orgasm. It is absolutely understandable that sex is an annoying duty for them. Their Yoni (vagina) is completely numb inside and sometimes can be even painful. These women can’t understand the true divinity of sex, because they have never experienced true pleasure.  One of the biggest gifts a woman can give her man is her orgasms. By nature man is the giver and woman is the receiver. It is very important that he can give, that he can give orgasms to her woman. Man also needs to learn how to receive, just like a woman needs to learn how to give. But a man wants to feel that he satisfies his woman. I am not talking here about the men who just...

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A Tantric Man. What does that mean?

Posted by on Feb 8, 2015 in Events | Comments Off on A Tantric Man. What does that mean?

For many people the meaning of the mystic-sounding phrase Tantric man is quite unknown. It sounds somewhat unearthly and many woman dream about a Tantric man entering their lives who should somehow magically solve all of her problems and make her happy at long last. I have followed and lived a tantric lifestyle for some years now and today I’m writing about my understanding and experience, what does it mean to be a Tantric man. This may not coincide with the views of many gurus, teachers and other followers of Tantric lifestyle but it is the view of me – a realistic and down-to-earth man.    For many people the word Tantra is only related to sex. Tantra is actually a spiritual lifestyle that provides the tools for living your life meaningfully, while constantly evolving. The ultimate goal of a real Tantric man is to become enlightened but in today’s world there are few men who strive towards it or even feel the need for it. Even if spirituality is not the goal, almost anyone can find something in Tantra that will help him improve his quality of life considerably, to be more aware and thus also happier. Tantra embraces everything related to life, be it eating, working or lovemaking. Everything can be done with greater awareness and this is how a whole new world can be discovered. Recently one of our male clients told us he had never encountered anything else in his life that would have brought as great changes in his life as Tantra did. He too had picked just what he needed from Tantra and thereby improved his 29-year relationship, his health and his wellbeing. Below I’ll list some of the topics that will probably resonate with many men and our upcoming training for men will be covering these subjects in greater detail. 1. Loving yourself and taking care of yourself. A Tantric man loves himself, loves life and the different forms of life around us. You are your best friend or your worst enemy. You can lift yourself up or bring yourself down if you don’t get along with yourself or love yourself. You control your emotions and state of mind.  If you love yourself, only then others too can love you and you are able to share love to others. A Tantric man takes care of his health, his bodily, spiritual and energetic wellbeing. A part of Tantric lifestyle is following the practices of Hatha Yoga that means conscious and healthy nutrition, practicing body purification techniques, Yoga asanas and meditation. Hatha Yoga practice helps us learn to perceive and control the movement of energy in our body and to channel and use it consciously. The most powerful form of energy in our body is sexual energy and a Tantric man has learned and is able to activate, accumulate and consciously use his own sexual energy.    2. The skill of handling women and taking care of them. The reason I chose to write in plural is that a Tantric man can either be consciously in a monogamous relationship or he can have multiple partners for sharing love, intimacy and masculine energy. When a man learns to control and retain his sexual energy, he can be in a deeply and mutually satisfying close relationship with multiple women simultaneously. He can satisfy them all and he will have enough masculine energy to balance his partners emotionally and energetically.  A Tantric man has learned to, or can naturally love women. He appreciates the beauty and feminine energy of women. He appreciates how the woman relates to...

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