The whole universe and all forms of life within it are working as a mutual interaction of positive (+) and negative (-) energies. Starting from the energetic (+)/(-) connections at the atomic level, forming the tangible and realistically comprehensible matter, up to the rather elusive solar system and galaxies.
The energies of Yang (+), or masculine, and Yin (-), or feminine, are the opposites operating throughout the universe, complementing each other and together they form a whole. Masculine energy, Yang (+), strives towards the destruction of the old and towards liberation, female energy, Yin (-) on the other hand, strives more towards preservation and holding. Yang (+) acts as a protector against external threats and thus has to be strong, Yin (-) preserves important basic truths and principles and prepares us for using these. Keeping these energies in balance helps us to achieve harmony and happiness in our lives, unbalance on the other hand will often bring chaos, destruction and suffering.
One of the main principles of Tantra is understanding this energetic polarity and using it consciously. Man and woman are seen as the embodiment of these polar energies. Shiva – the aspect of masculine (+) energy in the universe, pure consciousness, and Shakti – the aspect of feminine (-) energy of the universe. Each man and woman carry both energetic aspects simultaneously; masculine (+) energy, active, outward, giving, and female (-) energy, passive, inward, receiving. In our physical body these polar energies are distributed in such a way that our left side reflects the female energy and our right side reflects the masculine energy. Women are generally more charged with feminine (-) Yin energy and men more with masculine (+) Yang energy. The stronger (+) Yang energy the man has, the stronger is the energetic attraction of women towards him. The same holds true for women – the stronger the (-) Yin energy of a woman, the stronger subconscious attraction men feel towards her. We have repeatedly received feedback from our customers that after being able to sexually open more thanks to tantra massage as their gender-specific (+) or (-) energy has activated more, they have enjoyed considerably more attention. They are being noticed, they stick out, they shine, they are sexual and strongly polarized.
Energetic polarity also works very strongly in a tantra massage session and in regard to polarities it is considerably more effective if the masseur is of the opposite sex. Many women are afraid to get a tantra massage from a man because it is such an intimate, sexual and personal experience. Women have been suffering, emotionally and often physically hurt because of men and as a result they tend to fear men. In such case it is better to start tantric therapy with a female therapist. After overcoming the initial fears and hesitation, it would be beneficial to receive some sessions from a male therapist in order to balance feminine energy and to try to start trusting men again. Several of our female clients have started their tantric therapy with a female therapist and continued with a male one and later commented that the difference is great. They both offer different experiences and complement each other. Polarity-related energetic effect is considerably greater between opposite sexes. Often both women and men experience energy movement and energetic orgasms already when doing a general relaxing massage, increasing the body’s sensitivity with gentle touch and caress and opening marma points while activating energetic sensitivity.
In case a woman has never or almost never experienced a caring gentle attitude and touch from a man, it is advisable to experience tantra massage with a man who knows how to treat her by giving her an enjoyable combination of strong masculinity and gentle feminine touch. Strong masculine energy balances and calms the woman in the session and helps her to center herself, find inner peace and balance. In case the woman has no partner of if the partner is not willing or able to energetically balance her, it is good to get a tantra massage session from time to time to receive masculine energy and to keep her feminine energy active. This will help the woman to be more in her feminine energy, to feel better, have more positive mood and better health.
In today’s society there’s a great mix-up in the gender roles and energetic polarities of men and women. Women are more in masculine energy due to the roles inflicted by life, and men have often assumed feminine energy because being in a clearly distinguished and strongly masculine energy is not regarded as good and acceptable behavior. As a result the polarity and energetic attraction between men and women is decreased and there is more and more mutual resentment. Men are not happy with women and women are not happy with men. Mutual accusation however doesn’t help to change the situation. If we want some change, it must start from ourselves. Change in ourselves can happen only through awareness, understanding about which polar energy we currently are in and which energy we wish to be in. We can attain inner peace and balance if we accept and understand both of these energies in ourselves, feminine and masculine, and we are able to activate the energy matching our gender role more strongly. Here tantric therapy can help.
Wishing you inner evolution and growth of polarity,
Urmas