Anima and Animus

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Anima Derived from Latin meaning “a current of air, wind, breath, the vital principle, life, soul”, the Anima refers to the unconscious feminine dimension of a male which can often be forgotten or repressed in daily life.

However, in order to psychologically progress and reach greater internal balance and harmony, it is necessary for a man to recognize, embrace and connect to this latent element of his character. The man who has connected with his feminine Anima displays “tenderness, patience, consideration and compassion.”  However, repression of the female element within the man results in a negative Anima that triggers personality traits such as “vanity, moodiness, bitchiness and sensitivity to hurt feelings.”

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The Animus, which is a Latin word that means “the rational soul; life; the mental powers, intelligence“, is the unconscious male dimension in the female psyche.  Due to societal, parental and cultural conditioning, the Animus, or male element within the woman, can be often inhibited, restrained and suppressed.

On the other hand, some societies and cultures (such as the Western way of life), ruthlessly impose masculinity ideals as ways to excel, succeed and get anywhere in life for women.

These external elements can contribute towards a negative Animus, which reveals itself in a woman’s personality through argumentative tendencies, ruthlessness, destructiveness, and insensitivity.  However, integrating a positive Animus into the female psyche can result in strength, assertiveness, levelheadedness and rationality.

Connecting to your inner Anima or Animus does not require you to become homosexual or lesbian, as commonly thought.  And if you identify with either of these sexual orientations, it doesn’t require you to become heterosexual either.

Why?  Because these dormant elements within us have nothing to do with sexuality, and everything to do with creating a balance on the scales of passive (female) and aggressive (male) energies within us.

Connecting to the Anima for males is about understanding feminine energy which manifests itself as passivity, sensitivity, and emotionality.

Suggestions include the following: Practice the art of listening with concern and compassion. Rediscovering your passionate side through romantic gestures. Taking care of, or nurturing something.

Practicing thoughtfulness and consideration of the needs of others. Expressing the inner Anima creatively, e.g. music, art, sculpture, poetry, dance. Practicing mindfulness, meditation and other ways to get in touch with, and understand, inner emotions.

Expanding your hobbies or interests to incorporate feminine energies in your life. Practicing Self-Study in order to develop greater consideration of your internal needs for love and fulfillment.

For females

For females, connecting to the inner Animus is also about understanding masculine energy which manifests itself as everything that is active, dominant, and logical. Suggestions include: Practicing assertiveness. Adopting a role or position that puts you in authority/dominance. Learning to take charge of something in your life.

Discovering and developing your leadership abilities. Reading non-fiction instead of purely fiction. Becoming more self-sufficient and self-reliant. Learning masculine skills, (e.g. fixing car problems, handy-man abilities like using drills, fixing broken appliances, etc.)

Gaining more emotional balance by practicing mindfulness, meditation, and Self-Exploration, etc. Learning to become more rational by studying the approach to problems, decisions and situations by rational people. In essence, the basic question you need to ask yourself is: “what is the current balance of male and female energies in my life, and what needs further development?”

Females for instance, may possess more Animus (male) energy than female energy, and thus will need to get back in touch with the Anima (female) energy latent in the unconscious mind.  Vice versa for males.  Essentially, creating a balanced self is always contextual, and changes from person to person.

Tantra massage in Tallinn

Tantra massage in Tallinn. A voyage of discovery into the world of your deeper femininity.

Tantra Massage, also known as Tantra Therapy, is a holistic approach to our body and sexuality. Tantra Massage combines ancient Tantric teachings and massage techniques, offering a unique way to heal our physical and emotional bodies.

It is an intimate art of bodywork that expands our understanding of sexuality and helps us discover new dimensions of pleasure. At the same time, releasing the physical, energetic and emotional blocks in our bodies.

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A woman’s sexual opening in a Tantra massage session

Each day I see in my work women who cannot orgasm at all, can’t have internal orgasms or their sexuality is completely asleep.

Because of that their relationships with their partner’s suffer, also their health and their overall wellbeing. I can see more clearly how important it is to start paying attention to this part of their being, instead of ignoring it. Many men are desperate in relationships.

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Full Body Orgasm

Talking about male and female sexuality “full body orgasm” is not so often mentioned.

For many people this is like talking about walking on the moon, they have no idea what it is and if it even exists. Full Body Orgasm When a man or a woman gets an orgasm, then usually they have this intense feeling of release in the genital area. For men it comes with the ejaculation and for women often with the clitoris orgasm, sometimes with the lower vaginal orgasm.

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Yoni massage in Tallinn

Yoni massage is a type of Tantric massage that specifically focuses on the female genitalia and reproductive system, known as “Yoni” in Sanskrit, which translates to “sacred space” or “sacred temple.”

In Tantra, the Yoni is seen as a source of life and a place of deep wisdom and pleasure.

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Blockage release massage

Massage for Releasing Blockages: A Life Quality Changer

Massage therapy has proven its effectiveness over time in alleviating a variety of health issues. One of the most significant forms of massage is the blockage-releasing massage, which focuses on restoring the balance of body and mind by releasing both physical and emotional blockages.

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Marma massage

Marma Massage: Ancient Asian Healing Art

Originating from traditional Indian medicine, Marma massage is a unique therapy that combines ancient wisdom and modern techniques to offer a holistic approach to mind-body health. This article delves into the world of Marma massage, discovering its origins, techniques and benefits.

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What does the phrase Tantra Man mean

For many people the meaning of the mystic-sounding phrase Tantric man is quite unknown.

It sounds somewhat unearthly and many woman dream about a Tantric man entering their lives who should somehow magically solve all of her problems and make her happy at long last.

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Tantric massage and Polarity

The whole universe and all forms of life within it are working as a mutual interaction of positive (+) and negative (-) energies.

Starting from the energetic (+)/(-) connections at the atomic level, forming the tangible and realistically comprehensible matter, up to the rather elusive solar system and galaxies.

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Tantric massage and Menstruation

Once a month, on an average, women have a menstrual cycle of varying length and often a massage session coincides with the cycle.

Menstruation For most women this creates an unpleasant situation where they would like to come to the session but are afraid because they have feelings of shame and embarrassment related with their menstruation.

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Energetic polarity

Energetic polarity From the tantric viewpoint one of the attributes of energy is polarity.

Energy carries Yin or Yang polarity, a – or + sign. Yin energy is feminine, lunar energy with – sign. Yang energy is masculine, solar energy with + sign. In tantra it is believed that a male body accumulates more of the Yang energy and female body accumulates more of the Yin energy, but it doesn’t always work like this.

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If you have any questions or would like to know more about the tantric lifestyle, please contact me.