Energetic polarity in tantra

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Energetic polarity From the tantric viewpoint one of the attributes of energy is polarity.

Energy carries Yin or Yang polarity, a – or + sign. Yin energy is feminine, lunar energy with – sign. Yang energy is masculine, solar energy with + sign. In tantra it is believed that a male body accumulates more of the Yang energy and female body accumulates more of the Yin energy, but it doesn’t always work like this. When practicing tantra we constantly work with ourselves to make the energetic polarity between men and women work.

The purpose of practicing yoga is to activate and balance masculine and feminine energies within oneself 50/50. In tantra that’s not the goal, as in the 50/50 state a person will become energetically androgynous, half male, half female. 50/50 man and woman would sit, look at each other, hold hands, but they wouldn’t feel energetic or sexual attraction towards each other because there is no polarity between them.

A man in a strong masculine energy attracts a woman in a strong feminine energy. If you have much feminine energy, you are very sensitive and emotional but unable to control yourself. You feel much but you cannot deal with what you feel. If you are in a masculine energy, you don’t feel much and you are able to control and suppress everything within yourself.

The goal of yoga practices is to balance yourself and the sexual aspect is not important. Our soul doesn’t have a gender. The soul sometimes incarnates in a male, sometimes in a female body, and if I wish to gain a connection to my soul, I’ll have to overcome sexuality.

To be a non-man and non-woman. In ascetic religions where non-sexual spirituality is practiced, sexual identity doesn’t hold any importance and the practicing women may become more masculine and men can become more feminine. Balancing the energy.

We can balance the energy in our bodies in three different ways: On bodily level using Hatha Yoga, by activating our body’s left (Yin) and right (Yang) side. By nutrition, eating foods that carry more Yin or Yang energy.

By using tantric practices where partners balance each other’s energies. If a woman has a lot of sensitive and emotional Yin energy, she gives it to the man and the man gives balancing and stabilizing Yang energy to the woman.

The drawback of such balancing is that when your partner leaves for a period or when you end your relationship, you’ll be out of balance. That’s why you would have to be able to balance yourself as well, without the help from your partner.

Balancing of polarities is what happens between a man and a woman during a sexual intercourse. The woman gives the man feminine energy. The man will feel more sensitive, relaxed and sentimental after the intercourse.

The man gives masculine energy to the woman and she will feel more balanced, calm and able to control her emotions better after the intercourse. In tantra it is as if we were in a role play. We know that we are actually souls with no polarities, but since I was born as a male in this life, I’ll carry more masculine energy, and those who are born as female, carry more feminine energy.

If I want to practice tantric yoga, I’ll consciously choose ways to keep myself more in the masculine or feminine energy. Being 50/50 balanced would mean that I’m nobody in a tantric sense. 50/50 man and woman are not sexually interested in each other as there is no sexual attraction between them. An 80% Yang and 20% Yin man is very attractive to a woman who is in 80% Yin and 20% Yang energy and the man perceives such a woman as very feminine and attractive.

The greater the polarity, the stronger the energetic and sexual attraction between man and woman.

That’s why it is desirable to keep the polarities when practicing tantra, to preserve the attraction between partners. Sex and orgasms are the feeling of bliss that is achieved through mutual attraction of polarities. It is a similar phenomenon to electricity. If the + wire meets the – wire, there will be a spark. It’s similar between the masculine and feminine energies. The partners play and make love together and at one moment there will be an orgasm.

Orgasm happens at the moment when masculine and feminine energies balance within ourself. It can happen that the partners reach orgasms at different times. The woman has had 20 orgasms and the man has had 10 orgasms. Both have balanced themselves energetically without having simultaneous orgasms. Energy exchange has been working well for both. Most ascetic religions try to remove the polarity as it is not important for them.

It can even be distracting. If we have a high level of testosterone and adrenaline, we cannot sit quietly and meditate. Testosterone makes us uneasy, impulsive, impatient and sometimes violent and we don’t need this when we want to meditate and do Kriya Yoga practices. Then I would need to calm myself down and to be as close to 50/50 as possible. If I’m practicing tantra and my testosterone level is low, I cannot stay in lengthy tantric intercourses, I would become sexually inert and that’s why I cannot allow myself to be 50/50 in balance.

When two people are in love, the bodies will produce certain hormones – dmt, oxytocin, serotonin, vasopressin, etc. This heightened cycle of hormones can last about 3.5 years. When you think back to your relationships that have lasted longer than 3.5 years, how did the relationships change after 3 years together? In about 90% of relationships sex becomes much less frequent and important.

In case of long-term partners, it can happen that they will balance each other out energetically and get used to each other to a point where the polar and sexual attraction will start to disappear between them.

They will become androgynous towards each other as they will approach the 50/50 balance. If you wish to keep the sexuality alive in your relationship, you’ll need to keep the polarity.

Tantra massage in Tallinn

Tantra massage in Tallinn. A voyage of discovery into the world of your deeper femininity.

Tantra Massage, also known as Tantra Therapy, is a holistic approach to our body and sexuality. Tantra Massage combines ancient Tantric teachings and massage techniques, offering a unique way to heal our physical and emotional bodies.

It is an intimate art of bodywork that expands our understanding of sexuality and helps us discover new dimensions of pleasure. At the same time, releasing the physical, energetic and emotional blocks in our bodies.

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A woman’s sexual opening in a Tantra massage session

Each day I see in my work women who cannot orgasm at all, can’t have internal orgasms or their sexuality is completely asleep.

Because of that their relationships with their partner’s suffer, also their health and their overall wellbeing. I can see more clearly how important it is to start paying attention to this part of their being, instead of ignoring it. Many men are desperate in relationships.

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Full Body Orgasm

Talking about male and female sexuality “full body orgasm” is not so often mentioned.

For many people this is like talking about walking on the moon, they have no idea what it is and if it even exists. Full Body Orgasm When a man or a woman gets an orgasm, then usually they have this intense feeling of release in the genital area. For men it comes with the ejaculation and for women often with the clitoris orgasm, sometimes with the lower vaginal orgasm.

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Yoni massage in Tallinn

Yoni massage is a type of Tantric massage that specifically focuses on the female genitalia and reproductive system, known as “Yoni” in Sanskrit, which translates to “sacred space” or “sacred temple.”

In Tantra, the Yoni is seen as a source of life and a place of deep wisdom and pleasure.

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Blockage release massage

Massage for Releasing Blockages: A Life Quality Changer

Massage therapy has proven its effectiveness over time in alleviating a variety of health issues. One of the most significant forms of massage is the blockage-releasing massage, which focuses on restoring the balance of body and mind by releasing both physical and emotional blockages.

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Marma massage

Marma Massage: Ancient Asian Healing Art

Originating from traditional Indian medicine, Marma massage is a unique therapy that combines ancient wisdom and modern techniques to offer a holistic approach to mind-body health. This article delves into the world of Marma massage, discovering its origins, techniques and benefits.

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What does the phrase Tantra Man mean

For many people the meaning of the mystic-sounding phrase Tantric man is quite unknown.

It sounds somewhat unearthly and many woman dream about a Tantric man entering their lives who should somehow magically solve all of her problems and make her happy at long last.

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Tantric massage and Polarity

The whole universe and all forms of life within it are working as a mutual interaction of positive (+) and negative (-) energies.

Starting from the energetic (+)/(-) connections at the atomic level, forming the tangible and realistically comprehensible matter, up to the rather elusive solar system and galaxies.

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Tantric massage and Menstruation

Once a month, on an average, women have a menstrual cycle of varying length and often a massage session coincides with the cycle.

Menstruation For most women this creates an unpleasant situation where they would like to come to the session but are afraid because they have feelings of shame and embarrassment related with their menstruation.

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Anima and Animus

Anima Derived from Latin meaning “a current of air, wind, breath, the vital principle, life, soul”, the Anima refers to the unconscious feminine dimension of a male which can often be forgotten or repressed in daily life.

However, in order to psychologically progress and reach greater internal balance and harmony, it is necessary for a man to recognize, embrace and connect to this latent element of his character.

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