Sublimation of energy

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Sublimation of energy means that energy with a lower vibrational frequency is transformed into a higher vibrational energy.

Sexual energy can be transformed into love or intellectual energy for example. We can change different energies within us into other types of energies by channeling the energy from a chosen chakra to other chakras. While making love a great amount of energy is activated in the lower chakras, Muladhara and Svadisthana.

After finishing lovemaking, energy has risen to the upper chakras. Thus, tantric lovemaking in energetic sense is not different from sublimating sexual energy to higher chakras.

A similar process happens with burning fire. When we place firewood – material, hard and heavy, representing Muladhara energy – in fire, the weightless and invisible energy of light and warmth is released. Similarly, the sexual fluids of our bodies, sperm for men and menstrual blood for women, can be transformed into lighter energies – love, intuition, intelligence, spirituality and other non-material energies that are lighter and of higher vibrational frequency.

Emotional disbalance

If sexual energy doesn’t transform into a more sublime and higher frequency energy during tantric intercourse, it is actually quite a tragedy. The more we make love the more we collect energy in the second chakra.

If we make love for hours and don’t release sexual energy from the body, our Svadisthana chakra becomes very big. However, Svadisthana is the center of our emotions, so we may become very unbalanced emotionally. This also happens when practicing red tantra. In case of red tantra, lovemaking is done in a tantric way but without sublimating energy.

They love to enjoy sex and experience powerful pleasures at Svadisthana chakra level, not wishing to reach higher meditative states.

Higher states of consciousness

Tantrics have discovered that intense pleasure and powerful orgasms will invoke the activation of sexual/life energy that can assist in the awakening of consciousness and reaching higher states of consciousness. Tantric sex means conscious control and withholding of sexual energy, avoiding explosive orgasms, while sublimating energy into the higher chakras.

The energy, not lost through explosive orgasms, is channeled to higher chakras and used consciously for other purposes. Thus, sublimation is critical in the practice of tantra. If you are taught tantra without teaching sublimation, the teaching is incomplete. When experienced tantrics are making love for an hour, they may feel energy rising up to the area of chest and head and not being in the genital area any more.

Orgasm and ejaculation

In case of men it means that they need to learn to differentiate orgasm from ejaculation. Orgasm and ejaculation are not the same and men are able to experience orgasms without ejaculating. Orgasm is an ecstatic state. Usually we can experience this state of ecstasy and bliss for a few seconds only, because sexual energy exits the body and we are not able to stay longer in this state. Tantric practices teach us how to stay in this state of ecstasy for much longer.

It may last 10, 20, 30 minutes and this experience is much deeper and gives us a glimpse of the actual spiritual nature of sexuality. Men don’t need to ejaculate in order to experience the state of orgasm. The simultaneous activation of orgasm and ejaculation is a reflex learned by our body and mind.

In reality, different parts of brain are activated with orgasm and ejaculation and these can be differentiated and experienced separately. Tantra and modern medicine say that they don’t need to happen together. Men can experience orgasms without ejaculation and also ejaculate without having an orgasm.

We are used to experiencing these together and we have trained our body to work this way. That’s why some Indian and Tibetan gurus only take young boys as disciples because they haven’t yet created these simultaneous reflexes in their bodies and they are easier to teach to experience orgasms the way they wish.

If you are used to having these together, you too have created such a program in your body. This program needs to be changed, to learn to experience orgasm again, separately from ejaculation, and to affix new programs in the body. It requires about 5 times more time and energy than for those who start practicing tantra while still a virgin – men who haven’t yet ejaculated and women who haven’t experienced clitoral orgasms.

Orgasm and energy movement for woman

In case of men the differentiating is easier – they either have ejaculated or not. In case of women it’s a bit more complicated as many women don’t know themselves if they had an orgasm or not. Some women have rhythmic vaginal contractions while having an orgasm, some don’t, and it can be accompanied by ample excretion of fluids from the Yoni.

For women the clearest indicator of whether sexual energy has been released from body or not, is how they feel after orgasming. If a woman has had a very intensive orgasm and after that the first reaction is “leave me alone, don’t touch me”, then sexual energy has been released from body.

If a woman needs a pause for recovering after orgasm, she has ejaculated in the energetic sense, she has lost the activated sexual/life energy. If after having an orgasm a woman wishes to continue immediately and get more orgasms, then she has been making love in a tantric way and energy has been accumulating in the body. Multiple orgasm experience.

The purpose of tantric sex and lovemaking is to open the ability of experiencing multiple orgasms both in men and women.

To activate large amounts of sexual energy this way and to sublimate is consciously into the higher energy centers. Of course, for women it is much easier to experience multiple orgasms than for men. Some women can learn it after a couple of tantric intercourses or sessions of tantric massage but for some men it can take months or even years.

This doesn’t mean that practicing tantra is easier for women than for men. Nevertheless, for them it’s easier to get started and get initial positive experiences faster. If we take the opening of multi-orgasmic ability as the first round, then it is full of pleasure and joy for women but often frustrating and joyless, dull activity for men. About 5% of women find it very difficult to experience orgasms without the energetic ejaculation and release of energy from the body. They say they tried to hold themselves back but explosive orgasm still happened.

It is especially true if the woman is used to getting only clitoral orgasms. Most women enjoy starting their tantric practice. Sex becomes much more enjoyable for them. They shine, become more feminine, experience multiple orgasms, are happy and joyful. Men on the other hand are often grumpy and joyless. Everything is bad and sex doesn’t give much pleasure.

Testicles can be painful and swollen and men are not very happy. Except for some men who are naturally more talented sexually and can manage it all naturally and easily. That’s why women will have to support and encourage men more, so that they would be ready to go through the hardships of the beginning. As women are enjoying the beginning, men need to fight through it, to change their habitual reflexes with willpower.

Often this is the reason men give up. “I can’t do it this way, I don’t like it this way, I don’t want, etc.” For most women the opening of multi-orgasmic ability takes about 3 weeks, for most men – about 6 months. Some men may achieve it very easily and quickly but most will need to do much work on themselves. If a man has problems with premature ejaculation, it may take up to 9 months to learn to control his sexual energy and to not ejaculate.

Actually, it can be done but it requires willpower and effort and once men and women have mastered it, it will be of great benefit to both partners.

Tantra massage in Tallinn

Tantra massage in Tallinn. A voyage of discovery into the world of your deeper femininity.

Tantra Massage, also known as Tantra Therapy, is a holistic approach to our body and sexuality. Tantra Massage combines ancient Tantric teachings and massage techniques, offering a unique way to heal our physical and emotional bodies.

It is an intimate art of bodywork that expands our understanding of sexuality and helps us discover new dimensions of pleasure. At the same time, releasing the physical, energetic and emotional blocks in our bodies.

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A woman’s sexual opening in a Tantra massage session

Each day I see in my work women who cannot orgasm at all, can’t have internal orgasms or their sexuality is completely asleep.

Because of that their relationships with their partner’s suffer, also their health and their overall wellbeing. I can see more clearly how important it is to start paying attention to this part of their being, instead of ignoring it. Many men are desperate in relationships.

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Full Body Orgasm

Talking about male and female sexuality “full body orgasm” is not so often mentioned.

For many people this is like talking about walking on the moon, they have no idea what it is and if it even exists. Full Body Orgasm When a man or a woman gets an orgasm, then usually they have this intense feeling of release in the genital area. For men it comes with the ejaculation and for women often with the clitoris orgasm, sometimes with the lower vaginal orgasm.

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Yoni massage in Tallinn

Yoni massage is a type of Tantric massage that specifically focuses on the female genitalia and reproductive system, known as “Yoni” in Sanskrit, which translates to “sacred space” or “sacred temple.”

In Tantra, the Yoni is seen as a source of life and a place of deep wisdom and pleasure.

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Blockage release massage

Massage for Releasing Blockages: A Life Quality Changer

Massage therapy has proven its effectiveness over time in alleviating a variety of health issues. One of the most significant forms of massage is the blockage-releasing massage, which focuses on restoring the balance of body and mind by releasing both physical and emotional blockages.

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Marma massage

Marma Massage: Ancient Asian Healing Art

Originating from traditional Indian medicine, Marma massage is a unique therapy that combines ancient wisdom and modern techniques to offer a holistic approach to mind-body health. This article delves into the world of Marma massage, discovering its origins, techniques and benefits.

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What does the phrase Tantra Man mean

For many people the meaning of the mystic-sounding phrase Tantric man is quite unknown.

It sounds somewhat unearthly and many woman dream about a Tantric man entering their lives who should somehow magically solve all of her problems and make her happy at long last.

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Tantric massage and Polarity

The whole universe and all forms of life within it are working as a mutual interaction of positive (+) and negative (-) energies.

Starting from the energetic (+)/(-) connections at the atomic level, forming the tangible and realistically comprehensible matter, up to the rather elusive solar system and galaxies.

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Tantric massage and Menstruation

Once a month, on an average, women have a menstrual cycle of varying length and often a massage session coincides with the cycle.

Menstruation For most women this creates an unpleasant situation where they would like to come to the session but are afraid because they have feelings of shame and embarrassment related with their menstruation.

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Anima and Animus

Anima Derived from Latin meaning “a current of air, wind, breath, the vital principle, life, soul”, the Anima refers to the unconscious feminine dimension of a male which can often be forgotten or repressed in daily life.

However, in order to psychologically progress and reach greater internal balance and harmony, it is necessary for a man to recognize, embrace and connect to this latent element of his character.

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